Happy New
Year!
New Year’s
is one of my favorite holidays alongside Halloween and the 4th of
July. I love the romantic notion of new beginnings, hope of change and
betterment. I also love the organizational quality of putting some boundaries
around periods of time. I know there is the arbitrary component of dividing
time, but don’t ruin my romantic fantasy moment!
2013 was a
nice year, although it went very quick. I think it felt quicker than most
because I bought a postcard calendar last year, and at the end of the month,
you cut the postcard out and mail it to someone. I had high expectations of
doing that, and yet I sent 2. Two of twelve. The months would go
so damn fast! So Jesse’s mom, Ellen and my roommate from college, Catherine, you are
the lucky 2!
And since I’m
a glutton for punishment, I thought I would try to do the same thing this year…maybe
I’ll get 4 mailed!
So some
highlights for us in 2013:
The year got off to a running start when I ran my first 5k on my 29th birthday. It was great! I ran with a lot of track and field people so I was one of the slower ones (not sure why I signed for that one in stead of a more general population 5k...a year later, still don't know why), but it was fun to do and though I would say that I don't like running that much, I can see the mental and physical benefits of it. I have a wonderful friend, Kris, whom I've ran with this year (and her big, protective dog Tuvok) that have made the morning runs not only great, but actually happen.
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Go, go, go! Running in Golden Gate Park! |
Also last January, I had the brilliant idea that I should
re-learn French and when my mom comes over to help with the kids (which she did
almost daily) we could speak in French and teach the kids. This was fueled by a
lot of things: living close to my mom, keeping closer contact with my family in
France, rediscovering my French side and (warning: promotional plug) the book
Bringing Up Bébé. I don’t recommend parenting books, ever. But I will break
that covenant to recommend this book. I
don’t want to get too tangential, so I will do a post solely on that book
later, but the short of it is that it changed my parenting style immensely.
Ben at a Bastille Day Celebration
Speaking
French at home and implementing French culture was a very exciting idea for me,
as I was pretty depressed with the daily grind of taking care of the kids. By
the way, in case you ever wondered what twins are like, they are insane. I
repeat, they are insane. If you ever meet someone with twins, give them a hug
and tell them, “Take courage, you are doing the impossible.” Every time I meet
someone with twins (I can pick out the set of twins from half a mile away, I
swear I can sniff them out), we have a moment. It’s like we lock eyes, look
into each others' souls and say, “God help us.” And whenever someone says, “Well,
just think if you had triplets, or you were Octomom.” No, I can’t. My mind
shuts off and all I see is white space. There is just nothing I can say or
think, besides “Get help, immediately.”
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Don't be fooled, they're crazy. |
Anyways,
back to the French. So my French was pretty limited back in January. It’s better now that I’ve worked on it for a year but between that and having
to constantly remind my mom to “Parle français, s’il te plait!” over and over
(she kept reverting back to English and would say, “But, they can’t understand
me!”), it was not exactly going fast enough for me. So I found a wonderful
French school in the area. It is pretty expensive, but wow, the program is
amazing. The teachers are wonderful, and it is quite different that the public
school Ella went to last year, which we liked well enough, but the contrast was striking (and I guess the difference should be noticeable at the price!).
Ella took to
French very quickly. She had a hard time at first and she still complains about
it, but I let it run off my back. I just tell myself, “She’s 5. If she had her
way, she would watch TV all day.” Though, I’m much more comforting with her. I
know it’s hard. It’s very hard. And it’s so good for brain development. She is
really, really challenged by it. She is picking it up so quickly that she is
moving to a higher class level this week. I’m so proud of her.
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C'est ma petite fille qui j'adore. (This is my little girl whom I love) |
Ben, Lacy
and I attend a Moms and Tots French class at the school 2 times a week, which
is more difficult for me. The twins, especially Ben, cling to me with death
grips. They are pretty freaked out by the whole endeavor. But my spot of hope
is that Lacy is learning fairly fast and Ben says, “Fini!” after everything: the
last piece of broccoli, putting on his shoes, or turning off the TV.
It also get
us out of the house and the best part has been all the songs we’ve learned. We
can sing and dance together and the kids love, love, love the French songs. We
sing them all day long.
So implementing
French language and culture has been a big highlight of this year.
Another highlight
for me was getting a part time job (which I had to get for the French School to
work). And it is a wonderful online, work-from-home job. It’s pretty technical,
but the basic of it is I’m proofreading transcripts from financial conference
calls that are made at the end of every fiscal quarter. I’ve had to learn a
whole new language of investor, business terms, but I love it and I’m really so
thankful for it. (Another really cool perk is getting the inside scoop from all
these huge companies because I’m listening to the CEOs, CFOs of the companies,
TimeWarner, Google, huge pharmaceuticals, I find it pretty fascinating.)
I’ve learned
that I need something to do besides caring for the kids. I love being with them
AND I need to have a creative outlet with immediate, positive results, cause
there are days (many) with the kids, that I think, “What the hell am I doing? I’m
ruining these peoples’ lives.” Let’s face it, if I’m looking for immediate
results, raising kids is just not where it’s at.
Another highlight
was attending Jesse’s step-brother Andrew’s wedding in Georgia. We left the
twins with my parents and went for the weekend. It was a gorgeous, Southern
wedding and one of my first times in the deep South. I loved it! I also got to
have a quick cup of coffee with my dear friend, Emily, whom I hadn’t talked to
in a while. It was life-giving to see her again and catch up, albeit brief.
(Emily, if you’re reading this, I had a great time and I want to keep in touch
with you! Let’s make it happen!)
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Andrew and Magen's beautiful wedding |
In May, my
cousin, Marc and his wife, Jessica visited from France. This was such an
exciting moment of the year for us. We made a wonderful connection with them and
we created a friendship that I hope will continue, despite the distance. Seeing
them also added hope to my dream of taking the kids to France for a summer. (And
now I think it’s really going to happen!)
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Enjoying a freezing and amazing (Panda hit a homerun in the bottom of the 9th to win!) Giants game |
The rest of
the year was pretty quiet, overall, and we kept our summer plans light.
Then in the fall,
I was hit with a bomb when my plans of having Ella attend French school in the
morning and Kindergarten in the afternoon completely fell through. (French
school is not a certified K school, so for legal requirements Ella had to be
enrolled in an American school) I had been planning this with the school
district since May, but it seemed that they didn’t get what was going to happen
until it actually started happening, and said, “Oh, we can’t do that. You have
to choose one school.”
The problem
arose in her being about 30 minutes late to Kindergarten, it’s just not allowed
by state regulations even though they said they would make an exception. (mmmm,
hmmm, side eye at PUSD)
So, we
scrambled and thanks to a wonderful recommendation, (Thanks, Jess!) I enrolled
Ella in a homeschool program. So here we are, I’m homeschooling Ella in the
afternoon and I have not one clue what we will do next fall. So far it’s going
well, but it’s Kindergarten, so how can it not go well? First grade and on is a
little more daunting, so we will see….
Thanksgiving
was very nice, with Karen and Katie flying out for the holiday. It made our
Thanksgiving very special, and it was nice to have them here for our crazy
Birthday week with my mom (24th), Ella (26th) and Jesse
(28th).
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Happy Thanksgiving from CA (After this photo we all promptly removed our sweaters...it was so warm!) |
These are
the highlights of 2013 and reading through them makes it sound like we had this great,
amazing year, when 75% of the time it has been really, really hard. The kids,
Jesse’s school, the daily chores, thinking about what we are going to do next year are all very overwhelming
at times, and I can get very, very down. We are away from a lot of our
friends and most of our family, and staying home all day is very isolating.
Sometimes I feel like I’m losing my mind in this tiny little apartment that
feels many days like an island. I do hope to blog more this year to stay connected with everyone.
So that was
our 2013 in a nutshell, well, a large nutshell. Are you still awake? If you are,
kudos to you and I wish you a wonderful 2014 with lots and lots of blessings
and good things!
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Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! |